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‘Mama, what would I do without you?’

America celebrates Mother’s Day

By Hazel Trice Edney and Akua Aboagye
Trice Edney Newswire  

As young as 5 years old, Twan Woods would wake up at night and hear his mother having a seizure. He would know exactly what to do. He would run into her bedroom, hold her, put a cold rag in her mouth, comfort her and keep her from falling until it was over, he recalls.

“My Mom, she’s a sick lady. She’s like, handicapped, she’s been like that all her life,” said the 37-year-old. Woods  says, his mother, Francine Ward, raised him and his younger brother the best she could — with love and wisdom.

“She couldn’t come out and chase behind me as I was growing up … She couldn’t even teach me how to go to school and how to become a man, but one thing she did teach me was to depend on the Lord. She put the Bible scriptures in me. When I was younger, I didn’t want to hear it. But it was in me; so when I got older I had that to fall back on. She gave me the Word.”

In part, because of his mother’s heroic influence on his life, Woods and a few of his friends have pulled together a singing group called Ward 8 Entertainment. Their inspirational CD that he gives to anyone for a small donation is called, “Waiting for Better Days.” One of his prize singles on the CD is fittingly titled, “Mama, What Would I Do Without You?”

This week, millions of people are asking that same question and preparing to pay respects to their mothers and the motherly figures in their lives. In various interviews, some discussed their most touching memories and most important lessons.

When Kiona Daniels was only 16 years old, her mother was killed in a car accident. Her grandmother, Ella, took over the mothering. But, having been raised until the age of 16 in a household with three matriarchs — her mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, she had a triple dose of love that most people have not experienced.

“In retrospect, I think it had a huge impact on just developing me with a foundational basis of who I have become as a woman; especially as it pertains to relationships,” said Daniels, who will receive an executive master’s degree in public administration from American University this weekend. “Oddly enough, you wouldn’t think that two very older women would have an impact on me from a relationship standpoint,” but they taught by example, she said. Daniels celebrated her Grandmother Ella’s 98th birthday on May 6.

“My grandmother, Ella, she was just a loving, caring wife and had her own independence and had her own identity. And so, just having my own identity in a relationship and having my own independence financially without any reliance or dependence on a dating partner was something that I took from my grandmother a great deal. That was one of her main things: ‘Never depend on anyone. Always have your own,’” she quotes her grandmother.

Mother’s Day, like many holidays, is overshadowed by consumer-driven advertisement. Therefore, some struggle to enjoy the real meaning of the day set aside to honor the one who gave words of wisdom, nursed injuries, wiped away tears, cooked favorite meals and often sacrificed her own desires for her family’s. Yet, this Sunday, many mother’s hearts will be touched with the simplicity of love demonstrated by macaroni art projects from elementary schools and oversized cups with huge lettering designating her as the “World’s Greatest Mom.”

Patricia Dillard recalls the love of her mother during a time when African Americans still struggled amidst Jim Crow and racial segregation.

“I was about my granddaughter’s age (3-4 years old), and it was the late 1940s in Sweetbriar, Virginia, where my father worked as a cook and my mother did domestic housework at Sweetbriar College, an all girls’ college,” she recalls. “The people she worked for gave her a porcelain doll as a gift. When my mother came home from work that day she said to me there was something in the car for me.

“It was raining and I ran to the back seat of the car out in the garage, and there it was, this big beautiful baby porcelain doll. I felt so special that she gave something so precious to me that was meant for her. And I still have it. I think of the sacrifices my parents made to make sure I was happy, and how I appreciated this doll.”

Connie Danquah, 23, a physical therapy student at Howard University, giggles as she recalls her mom’s dedication to her after leaving a job working long hours in New York City.

“I was about 6 (years old),” Danquah recalls. “She quit her job and relocated to a position closer to home … because she wanted to be around. She picked me up from school and took me to all my extracurricular activities. We got to do all the girly stuff together; she dressed me up in big flowery dresses and enrolled me in tap and ballet. I felt like she was more excited than I was.”

The veil of innocence causes most children to be oblivious to the love and caregiving received from their parents. It isn’t until later in life, most commonly after people have children of their own, that they really understand the strength and selflessness necessary to raise a child. But, most people agree that regardless of who anyone considers mom, there is nothing like a mother’s love.

“Mama, Mama, I know you’re really not a father figure,” says Woods’ song, “But I want to take this time and thank you for giving me life.”

 

 

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